As a Divorce Lawyer in Orange County California, A frequent question asked is, What should kids do when their parents are fighting? Often times when there is conflict between parents they will not see their fault, and will not take responsibility for their actions, or mistakes. Many like to put the blame on others so they do not have to admit their flaws. Instead, it is often easier for parties to blame the other for all of the issues occurring.
Sometimes the parents clash and are unable to see eye to eye with one another on any issues. Due to the extreme dislike of one another the parents at times accuse the other party of things that are untrue. Divorce is an extremely emotional time for parties. Often parties do not know how to handle divorce, and instead display their emotions with extreme anger, or blaming the other party.
It is important for both parties to understand that their emotions and feelings they have are normal. Everyone heals in their own way and at their own pace. The only issue is when the parties are coping in a destructive or negative manner.
Most importantly, the parties need to be aware of the effect conflict and tension have on their children. Children may feel that the divorce is their fault. In addition, they may feel that they need to choose between their parents. It is important to not use your children as leverage. Additionally, it is important to explain to children that the divorce is not their fault, and they are not to blame. They need to understand that the divorce is between the two parties and is not the child’s fault.
Regardless of the emotions and stress associated with the divorce the children’s best interests are the primary concern. Checking with your children and maintaining open lines of communication are crucial to ensuring they are coping appropriately.
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