How to control anger in relationships & Understanding the Truth about Anger
How to control anger in relationships – What is anger and how do I control it? This is a common question asked by those in relationships. Anger can be one of the reasons for more serious problems developing in the marriage and can potentially lead to a divorce, or separation.
In order to control your anger it may be beneficial to understand what some common misconceptions regarding anger are. First, some individuals believe that because individuals in their families were verbally, or physically abusive that they are doomed to respond in a similar manner. It is crucial to understand despite the behaviors that were observed and learned there is still the potential to learn more appropriate methods for expressing your anger. Second, it is a commonly held belief that anger is often associated with aggressive behaviors. Although anger can be associated with aggressive behaviors, it can be dealt with in a different manner. When you become angry at someone or a specific situation it is helpful to change your mode of thinking, as well as the thoughts, or views you have previously held that have led to aggressive behavior. Third, there is a fine line between standing up for what you believe in and voicing your concerns, and responding in an offensive, or rude manner to convey your disappointment, or dissatisfaction. Moreover, it is important to realize that just because you have continually or routinely responded in an aggressive manner when angry does not mean this need to continue. Just as the aggressive responses were learned, observed and a part of your routine demonstrates that the mode of acquisition was through learning, and observing from others methods and strategies for coping when angry.
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